Although it may seem counterintuitive given that romantic partnerships are all about intimacy and proximity, space is actually what these relationships really need to flourish. Space is necessary for happy, loving relationships because, without it, one or both parties may feel smothered and dominated.

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If both partners want and need it, space can help a relationship endure the test of time. Not every relationship, though, is intended to continue “forever.” If they end at some point that’s okay. Even in partnerships, the death/rebirth cycle of life is constant, thus it is appropriate to understand that some things are temporary.

There are a few creative techniques to allow space in your romantic connection. I’ll explain why you might consider including space in your relationship before we proceed.   

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It’s crucial to understand that setting aside time and space does not imply that you are avoiding your spouse or that your love for them has diminished. 

However, it does imply that you have your own goals to pursue, that you are a unique individual who chooses to be in a relationship every day, and that you respect both your individuality and your relationship at the same time.

We often allow different aspects of ourselves to emerge when we are around diverse people. Around various people, we each shine in different ways. It’s simpler to lose yourself in that connection and forget who you are if you are constantly with your lover. You also need to consider that not every one of your pals wants to be friends with your partner, either.  

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Sleeping separately, yay or nay?

I strongly support couples sleeping in separate beds, despite the fact that some people think it’s an indication that their relationship is in crisis. The connection in the relationship can benefit greatly from the separation, even if it only occurs once a week, for a variety of reasons. 

  • One is that it creates a physical separation between people, a brief “holiday,” and gives you the chance to discuss your dreams and how you slept. 
  • The quality of your sleep will be bad if you’re disturbing each other’s sleep either because one of you needs to use the restroom late at night or because the other is hogging the covers or snoring, which can produce irritability and resentment in the relationship.
  • Separate beds can increase the intentionality of sex. Sleeping apart can foster an open dialogue about sex rather than assuming it will happen or raising the subject constantly. Both spouses are making time for sex since they discussed and decided upon it beforehand (or not).